GRL Pep Talks: Real Conversations for Real Growth
Your go-to space for leadership, confidence, identity, team culture, and the everyday challenges young women and student-athletes navigate.
GRL Pep Talks is where honest conversations meet practical support. Whether you’re a student-athlete, a young woman finding your voice, or someone building confidence and belonging, these Pep Talks are designed to help you grow in ways that actually fit your life.
You’ll find stories, worksheets, research-backed tools, and quiet reminders that you’re not alone in what you’re navigating. This is your space for clarity, connection, and the kind of leadership that starts from within — on and off the field.
The Psychology Behind Hype: Why We Freeze, Why We Fizzle, Why We Shine
We all have cycles of being dialed-in and cycles of total “blah.” Your hype isn’t broken — it’s psychology. Here’s why we freeze, why we fizzle, and how to shine on purpose.
Parent’s Guide: How to Know If a Youth Sports Program Is Right for Your Child
Parents have choices when it comes to youth sports, but how do you know if a program is truly right for your child? This guide offers a clear, research-informed checklist to assess belonging, coaching, playing time, communication, and overall culture—so you can choose a space where your child feels safe, supported, and excited to grow.
The GRL Initiative: Youth Sports Culture Audit: Is Your Program Built for Kids or Competition?
This checklist is designed to help coaches, parents, leagues, and youth programs evaluate whether their environment is truly built for kids — not just competition. Use it to reflect honestly on your team culture, coaching practices, parent behavior, and overall developmental approach. Check every item that applies to your program. The goal isn’t perfection — it’s awareness. Once you know where your strengths and gaps are, you can make thoughtful changes that help every child feel safe, included, and excited to keep showing up.
Worksheet: Understand what makes your team work well during calm seasons, to help protect with drama hits.
Strong teams aren’t built during conflict—they’re built during the calm moments. This post helps student-athletes understand what makes a high-functioning team work, what strengths to notice, and how to protect positive team culture before drama shows up.
When Things Are Good: How to Build the Kind of Team That Can Survive Drama Later
Strong teams aren’t built during conflict—they’re built during the calm moments. This post helps student-athletes understand what to notice, what to protect, and how to lead when their team is functioning well, so they’re better prepared for the hard moments later.
Let’s Talk About Team Drama (Because It’s Never Just Drama)
Team drama can make practices tense, games stressful, and the whole season feel heavier than it should. This post breaks down what drama does to a team, why it feels so overwhelming, and how you can navigate it with confidence, clarity, and leadership—without getting pulled into the chaos.
5 Boundaries You Can Copy + Paste — Even If Setting Boundaries Feels Uncomfortable
Setting boundaries doesn’t make you difficult — it makes you healthier. In this post, you’ll get five copy-and-paste boundary scripts backed by research, plus a conversation-style pep talk to help you protect your time, energy, and emotional wellbeing with confidence.
How to Find a Sport (or Hobby) You Actually Like — Even If You’re Starting From Zero
Trying something new doesn’t require confidence — just curiosity. Whether you’re exploring rec sports, creative hobbies, or brand-new activities, this guide helps you choose something you’ll actually enjoy. With research-backed tips and a down-to-earth pep talk, here’s how to find your thing at any age.
When Rest Feels Wrong (And Why That Doesn’t Mean Anything Is Wrong With You)
If rest feels uncomfortable or “wrong,” you’re not alone. High-achieving and caregiving brains often struggle to slow down — not because something’s wrong with you, but because your body isn’t used to safety in stillness. In this post, we explore the science behind rest guilt, small steps to make rest easier, and a pep talk for anyone learning to slow down.
You Just Have to Start (Even When It Makes Zero Sense)
A student-athlete stopped me during the football championship medal line to say my talk inspired him — and it reminded me of something big: moments like that only happen because you start. You start before you feel ready, before anyone is watching, before you stop caring what people think. This blog is about the courage to begin, the consistency to keep going, and why small moments of impact make every bit of the work worth it.
Find Your Thing: Why It’s Never Too Late to Unlock a New Passion
It’s never too late to try something new. Whether it’s pickleball, pottery, or a rec-league offering, finding an activity you love can unlock community, confidence, and joy. Here’s how to pick something that fits your values — and how to start if your school or space doesn’t offer it yet.
Be Your Own Hype-Up Girl: How to Get Psyched When You’re Not Feeling It
Some days you wake up ready to dominate. Other days? You're lucky if you can find your water bottle. Being your own hype-up girl isn’t about fake confidence—it’s about creating momentum when you don’t feel motivated. Here’s how to get psyched for your next game, practice, or big moment, even on your lowest-energy days.
Living With Agency
Living with agency means leading yourself first. This final Pep Talk explores how to sustain self-trust, boundaries, and belonging in a noisy world—and how your agency can create ripple effects of change.
Agency: Building It Back
Agency doesn’t return in a single moment—it rebuilds through small acts of self-trust. This Pep Talk explores how to reconnect your actions with your values, lead with integrity, and rebuild your sense of control one choice at a time.
Agency: How We Lose It
We don’t lose agency all at once—it’s chipped away through expectations, workplace norms, and stories that keep us small. This Pep Talk explores how to recognize where you’ve given away your power, and the first steps to taking it back.
What Is Agency, Really?
Agency isn’t control—it’s choice. When life feels out of your hands, reclaiming agency starts with remembering your power to act on your own behalf. In this Pep Talk, we unpack what agency really is, why it matters, and how to rebuild it when you’ve lost your sense of self.
When the World Feels Like Too Much
The world feels louder than ever—news, politics, injustice, exhaustion. But feeling powerless isn’t the same as being powerless. This week’s Pep Talk explores how to reclaim your sense of agency when everything around you feels out of control. Because you still have a say in what gets your energy—and what doesn’t.
GRL Q&A on Connection + Belonging
This isn’t just a Q&A — it’s a conversation. Dr. Lauren Young reflects on what connection and belonging truly feel like, from warmth and safety to laughter and loss, and invites you to explore your own story. Use these questions and journal prompts to reconnect with yourself, your people, and the places that feel like home.
Belonging Starts With You
We spend our lives chasing belonging — to a partner, a team, a purpose — only to realize we can be surrounded by people and still feel alone. This post explores the truth that belonging begins within. When we reconnect to ourselves, we stop performing for acceptance and start creating connection that feels real and lasting.
How to Reconnect — The Daily Practice
Reconnection doesn’t happen all at once — it happens in small, quiet moments layered over time. From eye contact to curiosity, repair to ritual, these simple daily practices rebuild the trust and belonging that disconnection slowly erodes. This is how we start bringing the flavor back